Meeting women with financial struggles is frequent, and you may feel tempted to help. But if a woman genuinely likes you and has honest intentions, she will never ask for money shortly after meeting you. If she does, it’s a clear sign her interest is financial.
A woman who truly likes you won’t want to come across as a gold digger, so even if she needs help, she’ll avoid asking for money early on.
I’ve started conversations on dating apps with a simple “How are you?”, and when the answer is “not good,” the next message is often a financial problem she hopes you’ll solve. If that happens, end the conversation immediately.
If you still believe there might be genuine interest, be upfront and say that you don’t send money to strangers. At that point, she’ll likely get defensive, criticize you, or end the conversation herself.
This doesn’t mean you shouldn’t help your partner financially, but never send money to a girl you just met, no matter how legitimate her story sounds — rent, medicine, food… those are not your responsibility at that stage.
Keep in mind that women who are truly interested in you won’t want to give a bad impression, so they won’t ask for money right away.
There’s also a more elaborate version: they don’t ask for anything at the beginning, but once trust is built, they request a large amount — for example, for a relative’s medical operation.
As any good detective would say: coincidences don’t exist. If a sudden financial emergency appears just after she’s earned your trust, be suspicious.
Of course, you can support your partner financially — send her money — but only when the relationship is stable and you trust her. And if it’s a significant amount, make sure it’s real and not a carefully crafted lie.