This type of girl is the one you must avoid, no matter what you’re looking for. You’re especially vulnerable to ending up with this kind of woman if what you want is a girl who truly wants to be with you—because that’s exactly how they’ll present themselves. Read this article to learn how to identify and avoid them.
Never get involved with a gold digger, and keep in mind that they will never present themselves as such. They’ll pose as honest girls, which makes men who are genuinely looking for a girlfriend or a real connection their main victims.
Situations with a gold digger always end badly. In many cases, after taking advantage of you, they won’t even have sex with you. And even if they do, the sex is usually terrible—they make no effort because they have no desire to be intimate with you. For the money you’ve spent, you could have arranged an orgy with prostitutes who would have added just as much to your life. You won’t have found a girlfriend, only a leech that will make you spend as much as possible without giving anything in return. And the moment she finds someone who interests her more for any reason, she’ll leave you without a second thought. These women are bad people—liars who play with others’ feelings without caring about the financial or emotional harm they cause.
These girls will present themselves as decent, genuinely attracted to you, but that’s not true. You must pay close attention to their behavior to spot the signs, because as I said, they’ll act as if they really like you.
Although experience makes it easier to see through them, there are a few telltale signs.
Economic behavior factors:
- If as soon as you start talking to a girl—whether on a dating app or anywhere else—she begins mentioning financial problems, don’t even bother replying. She’s a gold digger. If she were truly interested in you, she wouldn’t start talking about money issues right away, even if she had them. What she wants is for you to play the role of her “knight in shining armor” by paying whatever amount she claims to need—but that bill has probably already been paid by dozens of men before you.
- If she asks for money early on, be suspicious. From experience, even poor girls who are genuinely interested in you won’t ask for money at the start—precisely to avoid misunderstandings. If she really likes you, she won’t want to scare you off, and she knows asking for money could make her look financially motivated. I’ve been with poor girls who truly needed money but never asked for anything because they didn’t want to give me a bad impression.
- If she suggests that your first, or one of your first, dates should be a shopping trip, that’s an obvious red flag. You can take a girl shopping once you’re already seeing each other, but not on the first dates.
- If she wants to go to particularly expensive places or do costly activities right from the start—or if she’s constantly looking to spend: breakfast here, lunch there, drinks in between, dinner somewhere else—that’s another warning sign.
Physical behavior factors:
- She shows no real interest in having sex with you, and when she does—only because you initiate—it’s bland and unenthusiastic.
- She never tries to kiss you, and you always have to make the move; she even avoids tongue contact. Let’s be honest—she doesn’t like you, so she finds it unpleasant.
- From the beginning, she sleeps on the opposite side of the bed and turns her back to you. That can happen later in a relationship for comfort, but not at the start. If someone likes you, they usually cuddle early on.
- She shows no interest in your conversations. You might talk about your life, experiences, or memories, but she’s absent—looking away and not paying attention. If someone likes you, they listen to you.
So try to avoid these girls. The problem is that many men go on vacation, meet a beautiful woman who says she loves them and wants to be with them—and for someone who struggles to attract women like that back home, she feels like a dream come true. That makes men blind to reality, thinking all the money they spend is justified because they’re being a gentleman.
The lack of genuine physical interest might go unnoticed due to lack of experience, but trust me—be very careful with these women, because the only thing you’ll get is to be emotionally and financially drained. It’s just a matter of time. It’s better to be with a less attractive girl who truly cares about you—or, if what you want is sex with a beautiful woman, there are many you can make a clear financial arrangement with during your holidays. Even though you’re paying, in the end you’ll save money and avoid the emotional crash that will come when she leaves you for someone else she likes more.
And be sure of this: these women have no morals whatsoever. They won’t think twice about leaving you—or even going off with your best friend right in front of you—if it benefits them more.